Enough is enough.

I think somethings which may seem trivial to people today should come to an end. A couple of weeks ago, I made fun of somebody with a casual comment, and from then on, she bombarded me with all seriousness, and with quotes from the Word, that she would not allow anyone to put her down and be so critical of her. Initially, I wrote an apology in the form of an email, thinking that it would likely be the solution to this "trivial" outburst. At that point in time, I thought it was perfectly fine and she had to accept who I was. However, as I brooded over the issue, something felt missing and I didnt know what it was until today when the Lord spoke through a similar situation, in this case sadly, I was the victim.


I think many of you who read my blog would be familiar that many people tease me about being fat. If you thought I was fine with that, you were "right" in a sense that I would "laugh" along with you. However you were wrong too. Yes I know I am fat. Yes I know I am losing hair. I DO NOT NEED UNNECESSARY REMINDERS! I realised that negativity slowly builds up within, and if one is not careful and does not deal with the issue promptly, it could have a snowball effect and by the time you deal with it, its too late. What makes suan-ing too much to handle? What makes suan-ing still manageable within your emotional capacity? Suaning may seem natural to us, and without proper control over your speech, your relationship with people will spiral out of control.

Take my own case for example. Today, we went out in a group for dinner. S starts making fat jokes for no rhyme or reason. Everybody laughs and you are the butt for all humour. Even when you ask S to stop, she dosent and rants and rants and rants. This is a perfect example of someone with low EQ and loose with her words. (Note that this is what I noticed about myself too.) Then we all went back with S still suaning and suanning(nearly wanted to scream at S at the bus terminal but thank God I didnt), and I confronted S online and yet, she still sticks to her stand and still suans. And so you see earlier that when the defensive stance fails, people tend to go on the offensive, which was kindof what I did, but in a nicer way. Then I realised what I was becoming and stopped. You see, people need to manage their words and emotions properly.

For someone who has been laughed at with fatty jokes with endless years of experience, nothing new. But somebody will take it deeper another level. Through this "trivial" encounter, I began to see a new side of myself unfolding. It is evermore important that we must be tactful with whatever we say. The Bible also tells us that the words that proceed out of our mouths can either edify, or pierce like arrows. As I was meditating on Maximised Manhood (excellent book by the way) for the past 2 weeks or so, besides the core message that manhood and Christlikeness are synonymous, Dr Edwin Louis Cole emphasizes the importance of manhood being the head of everything else, and our WORD being our BOND. Words bond. They frame another's mind/world!

In the book, Dr Cole uses an example of marriage whereby the husband was so critical of the wife of her every move, her cooking, dressing, etc. How can a marriage relationship be fruitful like that? From the story, the husband was a pastor in a local church and his church never grew simply because of this failed relationship with his wife. Now, I understand why the person was so angry with me afew weeks ago. Now, I understand how important it is to be tactful with words. Words are a means of communicating. A collection of words = a sentence. You either add value to another's life or subtract value with the words that come out of your mouth.Being loose with words simply show that you do not think/consider before you act.


I have a made a decision for change. Not because to please Man, but to be one who is responsible for others around him, to be an edifying connect group leader to his members, to be disciplined child of God. And lift all this in Your name.